Am I A Nosy Neighbor?
How do you know the difference between being nosy and being a caring neighbor?
Street in Venice; 1882; John Singer Sargent, American; Source: National Gallery of Art
CEFR Level A2-B1
While getting in my car for a hair appointment, I saw an ambulance parked in front of a neighbor’s house. Naturally, an ambulance is concerning, even though I don’t know this neighbor beyond chatting a few times when she is out working in their yard. Despite my curiosity, I continued to my appointment, which was in the opposite direction.
Half an hour later, I returned to see the ambulance still there. Would it be too nosy to drive past to see what was happening?
I decided it would be.
A few minutes later, I made a phone call that required being on hold for several minutes. I used the time to walk around the block, not to be nosy, but because it was good weather and I wanted to be outside. Okay, I’ll be honest: I wanted to check on the neighbor. But it was good weather for a gentle walk!
The ambulance was still parked by the curb and I saw people walking from it to the house. To avoid being a Looky Lou, I walked in the opposite direction. Ten minutes later, I turned the final corner to see the ambulance was gone and my neighbor’s house looked normal.
I went inside and told my husband, “I don’t know what to do.” I explained the situation, adding that the neighbor is a woman living alone. “I don’t want to be a nosy neighbor who can’t mind her own business, but I don’t want her to be on her own and in need, either,” I said.
“Did she give you her number? You could call her,” he suggested.
“No. We don’t know each other well enough to exchange numbers,” I responded, wondering if I should have offered mine the last time I thought about it but decided not to in case it was making more of the relationship that was socially expected.
“Then I don’t know,” he shrugged.
I couldn’t settle, so I called a woman who is nearly two generations older than me and seems to be aware of current life conditions. I figured she would have a sense of what social norms are, or at least enough life experience to put my dilemma in perspective.
“I think checking on her would be the neighborly thing to do,” she affirmed.
“But I would have to go knock on her door. I don’t want to intrude,” I repeated.
“I think that would be fine,” she assured me.
Fortified with this encouragement, I walked down the street to check on my neighbor. As I approached her house, I realized that this would be the middle of her night and that I could have brought a note to leave in her mailbox. Since I was there and it was only 30 minutes since the ambulance left, I decided she would probably still be awake and knocked.
No one answered, but her cat looked at me through the window when I stepped back to be sure my neighbor could see me without opening the door. After what seemed like enough time for someone to get out of bed and walk through the house to the door, I knocked again. No one answered. I didn’t know if she wasn’t there, I wasn’t knocking loudly enough, or if she was asleep and didn’t hear me. The cat continued to watch me with large, curious eyes.
I walked back to my house. Hours later, at a time that I knew was her morning, I tried again, this time bringing a note with my phone number to leave in her box if no one answered. She was working in her yard, clearly in good health.
I explained what happened. She didn’t know anything about an ambulance. We concluded it must have been for the neighbor that I’ve never met, but the angle made it look like her house.
I felt embarrassed, but she beamed at me, “Thank you so much! It’s really sweet of you to care enough to check on me!”
We exchanged numbers and I felt relieved that things worked out this time, but I’m still uncertain. Where is the line between being a good human who cares about others and being a nosy neighbor who can’t mind their own business?
"A Gift to Us Was Given" is the Christmas story in four verses and a refrain. The verses are in D minor, offering peaceful joy as listeners contemplate the meaning of the words. The refrain, in F major, is a joyful response to the significance of what the verses tell. This new Christmas carol in a gentle 6/8 is arranged for be accessible to the average congregational choir, but sopranos have the option of celebrating with A5.
For SATB - Hymn-style arrangement
Key: D Minor, F Major
Soprano/Melody Range: D4-F/A5
Time: 1-2 minutes
Pages in Score: 1
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